When You Can't Stop, and Can't Tell Anyone

You've tried to quit on your own more times than you can count. You mean it every time. And every time, you end up back in the same place, feeling more ashamed and more alone than before.

Maybe it's pornography that's quietly taken over more of your life than you'd admit. Maybe it's behavior that goes against everything you believe about yourself. Maybe you're not even sure what to call it, only that it has a grip on you and willpower hasn't been enough to break it. And the worst part isn't the behavior. It's the secrecy, the double life, the fear that if anyone really knew, you'd lose everything.

You are not a bad person with no self-control. You're a person carrying a wound, a hole in your soul, that's been running the show. And it can be treated.

You Don't Have to White-Knuckle This Anymore

I'm Allan J. Katz, a licensed counselor and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT). For over a decade I've helped men break free from compulsive sexual behavior, porn addiction, and the shame that keeps it circling again and again. I'm one of the few CSATs in Tennessee, and the only one in Memphis who takes insurance. I’ve been there and heard every version of this story, and I don't flinch, and I won't judge you. What I will do is help you understand what's actually driving this, and give you a real way out.

How We Break the Cycle

We tell the truth, safely.

A confidential, judgment-free space where you can finally stop hiding. The secrecy ends here, and that's where recovery starts.

We treat the root, not the symptom.

Compulsive behavior is almost always covering pain, stress, or trauma. We go after the hole in your soul that’s underneath so the behavior loses its grip.

We build accountability that holds.

You get a concrete plan and real accountability, because insight alone doesn't keep anyone sober. You get what you practice.

Understanding the Trauma Underneath

For most men, compulsive sexual behavior isn't really about sex. It's about escape, control and power.. Somewhere along the way, porn or acting out became the way to numb stress, loneliness, or pain. you may not even connect to it, sometimes reaching all the way back to childhood. Until that underlying wound is addressed, sobriety stays fragile, because the pain it was medicating is still there. This is why willpower fails and why treating the trauma changes everything: when the root heals, the behavior stops being something you have to fight every single day.

The Approaches I Use

Recovery isn't one-size-fits-all. I draw on proven, trauma-informed approaches and match them to what you actually need:

A powerful method for reaching and releasing the trauma stored beneath conscious awareness, where talk therapy alone can't go.

Practical skills for riding out urges, regulating hard emotions, and staying steady when everything in you wants to escape.

Active, doing-not-just-talking work that helps you practice honesty, accountability, and change in real time.

Frequently Asked Questions

You don't need to settle that label before reaching out. If your behavior feels out of your control, conflicts with your values, or you've tried to stop and can't, that's reason enough to get help. A proper assessment can give you a clear, honest answer.

Completely. Everything you share is confidential and handled to professional ethical and legal standards. Discretion is part of the work, especially for men with careers and families on the line.

Yes. I'm the only CSAT in Memphis who accepts insurance and one of the few in Tennessee. We'll sort out the details during your consultation.

Yes. In-person in Memphis, and secure telehealth across Tennessee and New Jersey.

Not Ready for Therapy Yet? Start Here.

Sometimes you're not ready to pick up the phone, and that's okay. You can start privately, at your own pace, with a book in your hands. Allan has written and contributed to several that meet you exactly where you are.

Ambushed by Betrayal.

A survival guide for betrayed partners finding their footing after discovery and beginning the journey back to healthy intimacy.

Navigating Phases of Sex Addiction Recovery.

A clear map of what recovery actually looks like, stage by stage, for the person doing the work of getting and staying sober.

Help Her Heal.

For the partner who caused the wound and wants to understand how to show up, take responsibility, and truly help their partner heal.

Start with a book today, and reach out when you're ready for the next step.

Browse Allan's Books → Or Book a Free 15-Minute Consultation →

You've promised yourself you'd stop. You're still here, and you're tired of fighting it alone.

Sex, Porn & Love Addiction Therapy in Memphis, TN

When You Can't Stop, and Can't Tell Anyone

You Don't Have to White-Knuckle This Anymore

How We Break the Cycle

We tell the truth, safely.

We treat the root, not the symptom.

We build accountability that holds.

Understanding the Trauma Underneath

The Approaches I Use

Brainspotting and Harmonic Brain Healing.

Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT).

Experiential Therapy.

Frequently Asked Questions

Am I really a sex addict, or is this just a bad habit?

Is this confidential? I have a lot to lose.

Do you take insurance?

Can we meet online?

Not Ready for Therapy Yet? Start Here.

Ambushed by Betrayal.

Navigating Phases of Sex Addiction Recovery.

Help Her Heal.