Treating Sex Addiction Alone Does Not Work

Being happily married it was astonishing to him that he could fall for the old "try and get her phone number" trick he used to do in high school and college. 

And this is precisely the answer to the WHY question.  As we get older we constantly question ourselves if we still have "skills" we once had.  If we're still as handsome or pretty as we once were.  If we're still attractive to other people.  What is my purpose and am I filling my purpose by sticking to my values or am I more susceptible to giving in to my urges when I'm feeling vulnerable? 

For some people the hunt to "test the waters" AGAIN, as if he was a college student roaming around in a bar to pick up some girl, can be very tempting. 

It's not meant to "get back at my wife because I'm holding a grudge." It's meant to verify if I've still GOT IT. 

The understanding and realization of this phenomenon can help you overcome these urges and that's why I am bringing it to your attention.