I am where I am supposed to be  When we attempt to push away negative feelings they simply develop greater power and energy over us. What we resist, persists. Many people believe they can live their lives avoiding any form of pain or suffering, loss or monetary woes. Well, life doesn’t work that way. We […]

Perfectionism is all about fear Feeling we have to be perfect is all about fear. Old messages bombard us with warnings we may not be good enough or ‘what will other people think?’ Other people procrastinate because of childhood messages of “do it perfectly or not at all.” This pressure hinders creativity and causes us […]

Putting off until tomorrow what you can accomplish today Procrastination is closely related to perfectionism. We procrastinate because of anxiety and fear of failure. There is a positive correlation between procrastination and self-handicapping, task avoidance, perfectionism, irrational beliefs, and depression. Lack of incentives increase procrastination. Every behavior has a positive intention. Excellent students for example […]

I lead a group on Monday nights with a group of clients who have cheated on their wives by engaging in affairs, sexting, pornography, prostitution (nicely called escorting) and other forms of sexual or emotional affairs, i.e. acting out.  We typically discuss ways to build the trust back with their wives and talk about current […]