If you have found yourself in a troubled relationship, there is a very good chance you grew up with parents who argued and fought often. Your household was most likely filled with the sounds of angry voices, raised in an attempt to be heard or to simply drown out the other person. This means you […]

Whenever there is a discussion about social media and mental health, there is generally a negative association. Many studies now have pointed to individuals developing depression or anxiety as a result of time spent on social media sites like Facebook and Twitter. But is this a full picture? There is actually another side to the […]

In my time as a marriage counselor, there is probably one statement I have heard more than any other, and that is, “I just don’t think I will ever get over this.” This statement is often said by my clients who have recently learned their spouse has had an affair. The second most common phrase […]

Empathy is defined as being there for someone, putting yourself in the other person’s shoes, building rapport and showing compassion for the other person. The opposite of empathy is apathy and indifference; not caring what the other person is going through. It is interesting because the opposite of love is also indifference, not hatred. I […]

The few who choose the holy bond of matrimony in today’s society still struggle with the simple act of living well.  Those who denounce marriage as simply a piece of paper, go from attraction to sexual intimacy quickly, then wonder why they can’t have a long-lasting relationship. Couples or partners with shaky, argumentative relationships, dwell […]

Why do people who have a “good childhoods” become addicted to alcohol, drugs, sex, food, shopping, video games and excitement?  Little Johnny grew up without any rules or consequences as a young boy.  He could practically do whatever he wanted while his parents were busy working.  He was always told he was a “good boy” […]

How did the human race begin, the little boy asked mom? Mom:  G-d created man from the dust of the earth, took out a rib and made woman.  They got together and started the human race. The little boy went to dad and asked him, how did the human race begin? Dad: The human race […]

Rigorous Honesty The big book of Alcoholics Anonymous describes how addictive thinking  convinces the addict that they can manage their own recovery.  In the chapter of How It Works it is written, half measures availed us nothing, we stood at the turning point.  This means to recover from any type of addiction you have to […]

There is a common expression that we criticize others for things  we do ourselves.  In relationships we deceive ourselves into believing that the secret things we do,  do not affect our primary relationship.  Yet, according to Alex Katehakis, CEO of the Center for Healthy Sex, we hide the truth from ourselves so we can manipulate […]

People across cultures, religions and groups have engaged in infidelity since the beginning of time. In today’s society, the temptation is exacerbated by the sexualization and objectification of men and women in media, news, TV, movies, advertising, pornography, and online video chats. Dating sites are a kinder, gentler way of facilitating hook ups, affairs, and […]