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    You Can’t be Empathic If she can’t find her shoes

    October 7, 2020

    Empathy is defined as being there for someone, putting yourself in the other person’s shoes, building rapport and showing compassion for the other person. The opposite of empathy is apathy and indifference; not caring what the other person is going through. It is interesting because the opposite of love is also indifference, not hatred. I […]

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    You Can’t be Empathic If she can’t find her shoes

    October 7, 2020

    Empathy is defined as being there for someone, putting yourself in the other person’s shoes, building rapport and showing compassion for the other person. The opposite of empathy is apathy and indifference; not caring what the other person is going through. It is interesting because the opposite of love is also indifference, not hatred. I […]

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    What’s wrong with marriage today?

    August 12, 2020

    The few who choose the holy bond of matrimony in today’s society still struggle with the simple act of living well.  Those who denounce marriage as simply a piece of paper, go from attraction to sexual intimacy quickly, then wonder why they can’t have a long-lasting relationship. Couples or partners with shaky, argumentative relationships, dwell […]

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    What’s wrong with marriage today?

    August 12, 2020

    The few who choose the holy bond of matrimony in today’s society still struggle with the simple act of living well.  Those who denounce marriage as simply a piece of paper, go from attraction to sexual intimacy quickly, then wonder why they can’t have a long-lasting relationship. Couples or partners with shaky, argumentative relationships, dwell […]

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    Neglect and Entitlement: The Connection

    June 17, 2020

    Why do people who have a “good childhoods” become addicted to alcohol, drugs, sex, food, shopping, video games and excitement?  Little Johnny grew up without any rules or consequences as a young boy.  He could practically do whatever he wanted while his parents were busy working.  He was always told he was a “good boy” […]

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    Neglect and Entitlement: The Connection

    June 17, 2020

    Why do people who have a “good childhoods” become addicted to alcohol, drugs, sex, food, shopping, video games and excitement?  Little Johnny grew up without any rules or consequences as a young boy.  He could practically do whatever he wanted while his parents were busy working.  He was always told he was a “good boy” […]

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    Shame Based Family Systems: How did the human race begin?

    June 3, 2020

    How did the human race begin, the little boy asked mom? Mom:  G-d created man from the dust of the earth, took out a rib and made woman.  They got together and started the human race. The little boy went to dad and asked him, how did the human race begin? Dad: The human race […]

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    Shame Based Family Systems: How did the human race begin?

    June 3, 2020

    How did the human race begin, the little boy asked mom? Mom:  G-d created man from the dust of the earth, took out a rib and made woman.  They got together and started the human race. The little boy went to dad and asked him, how did the human race begin? Dad: The human race […]

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    Rigorous Honesty is what recovery is all about

    June 3, 2020

    Rigorous Honesty The big book of Alcoholics Anonymous describes how addictive thinking  convinces the addict that they can manage their own recovery.  In the chapter of How It Works it is written, half measures availed us nothing, we stood at the turning point.  This means to recover from any type of addiction you have to […]

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    Rigorous Honesty is what recovery is all about

    June 3, 2020

    Rigorous Honesty The big book of Alcoholics Anonymous describes how addictive thinking  convinces the addict that they can manage their own recovery.  In the chapter of How It Works it is written, half measures availed us nothing, we stood at the turning point.  This means to recover from any type of addiction you have to […]

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    Self-Deception:  In Love, do you trust your body or your mind?  

    May 26, 2020

    There is a common expression that we criticize others for things  we do ourselves.  In relationships we deceive ourselves into believing that the secret things we do,  do not affect our primary relationship.  Yet, according to Alex Katehakis, CEO of the Center for Healthy Sex, we hide the truth from ourselves so we can manipulate […]

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    Self-Deception:  In Love, do you trust your body or your mind?  

    May 26, 2020

    There is a common expression that we criticize others for things  we do ourselves.  In relationships we deceive ourselves into believing that the secret things we do,  do not affect our primary relationship.  Yet, according to Alex Katehakis, CEO of the Center for Healthy Sex, we hide the truth from ourselves so we can manipulate […]

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    What is the purpose of having an affair?

    May 13, 2020

    People across cultures, religions and groups have engaged in infidelity since the beginning of time. In today’s society, the temptation is exacerbated by the sexualization and objectification of men and women in media, news, TV, movies, advertising, pornography, and online video chats. Dating sites are a kinder, gentler way of facilitating hook ups, affairs, and […]

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    What is the purpose of having an affair?

    May 13, 2020

    People across cultures, religions and groups have engaged in infidelity since the beginning of time. In today’s society, the temptation is exacerbated by the sexualization and objectification of men and women in media, news, TV, movies, advertising, pornography, and online video chats. Dating sites are a kinder, gentler way of facilitating hook ups, affairs, and […]

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    When is Enough Verbal Abuse Enough

    January 9, 2020

    The Tale of the Narcissistic Betrayer There are several factors to consider with the “when is enough enough” dilemma. The betrayed partner has the right to express her anger, ask why this happened and hold on to her feelings of being traumatized by her partner’s actions. But, how long does asking for more details, verbal […]

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    When is Enough Verbal Abuse Enough

    January 9, 2020

    The Tale of the Narcissistic Betrayer There are several factors to consider with the “when is enough enough” dilemma. The betrayed partner has the right to express her anger, ask why this happened and hold on to her feelings of being traumatized by her partner’s actions. But, how long does asking for more details, verbal […]

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    Narcissistic Shame and Addiction

    December 18, 2019

    The failure of early narcissism leads to shame. Shame is an unmet childhood need and when a child grows up and becomes an adult, the need grows until it is fulfilled by someone or by some behavior.
    When a narcissistic adult feels a negative emotion, they will act out with alcohol, drugs, sex, gambling, shopping, etc. over the unmet needs related to shame. Even when they have a positive emotion, they may act out, feeling they don’t deserve to have goodness and positivity in their lives.

    Addiction is a futile attempt to get a person’s needs met. In fantasy a person can control the situation and never have to feel they’ve failed. People have affairs and act out sexually because it’s a controllable situation, “I get my needs met and don’t have to deal with the demanding chaos at home.”

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    Narcissistic Shame and Addiction

    December 18, 2019

    The failure of early narcissism leads to shame. Shame is an unmet childhood need and when a child grows up and becomes an adult, the need grows until it is fulfilled by someone or by some behavior.
    When a narcissistic adult feels a negative emotion, they will act out with alcohol, drugs, sex, gambling, shopping, etc. over the unmet needs related to shame. Even when they have a positive emotion, they may act out, feeling they don’t deserve to have goodness and positivity in their lives.

    Addiction is a futile attempt to get a person’s needs met. In fantasy a person can control the situation and never have to feel they’ve failed. People have affairs and act out sexually because it’s a controllable situation, “I get my needs met and don’t have to deal with the demanding chaos at home.”

    Filed Under: Uncategorized Tagged With: addiction, narcissism, shame

    Addiction and Relapse Prevention

    December 9, 2019

    It’s not your body you have to control, it’s your mind. Switch your thinking and your body will heal. You can only have one thought in your mind at a time. Use your mind for a change!!!!! The key to recovery from addiction and gaining serenity is to live in the moment, just for today, […]

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    Addiction and Relapse Prevention

    December 9, 2019

    It’s not your body you have to control, it’s your mind. Switch your thinking and your body will heal. You can only have one thought in your mind at a time. Use your mind for a change!!!!! The key to recovery from addiction and gaining serenity is to live in the moment, just for today, […]

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